This article essentially highlights a
scenario where, as a joke, a father poses with his daughter’s Homecoming date
to mimic the couple’s photo. After it’s posted a comment on Facebook reads,
“Anything you do to my daughter, I will do to you.” This situation, and others
very similar have always been seen as jovial, and are even encouraged among
fathers with daughters.
The article branches off into why the classic, over-protective father to his daughter situation is completely offensive; stating that it is an insult to a boy’s parents and their ability teach him to decipher between right and wrong, the boy’s ability to make the right choices, and the daughter’s standards in a partner, or skills in assessing a situation that is potentially dangerous.
I completely agree that these situations are inappropriate, and altogether perverse. This mindset lends itself to the idea that boys are incapable of acting with reason, and that hormones decide their actions. Boys should be taught that they are in control of their hormones, not the other way around. Teenage sexuality not only impacts boys, but girls as well. They can be equally interested and curious.
Because of this, I believe it’s also wrong to think of girls as innocent and incapable of determining a level of danger, and having the knowledge to handle the situation. Girls should be raised with the skills and confidence to make safe and healthy decisions for themselves.
Parents should attempt to break this common idea by teaching both sons and daughters responsibility for their actions and the ability to make good choices.
www.huffingtonpost.com/kasey-ferris/my-son-does-not-need-to-b_b_8338402.html
The article branches off into why the classic, over-protective father to his daughter situation is completely offensive; stating that it is an insult to a boy’s parents and their ability teach him to decipher between right and wrong, the boy’s ability to make the right choices, and the daughter’s standards in a partner, or skills in assessing a situation that is potentially dangerous.
I completely agree that these situations are inappropriate, and altogether perverse. This mindset lends itself to the idea that boys are incapable of acting with reason, and that hormones decide their actions. Boys should be taught that they are in control of their hormones, not the other way around. Teenage sexuality not only impacts boys, but girls as well. They can be equally interested and curious.
Because of this, I believe it’s also wrong to think of girls as innocent and incapable of determining a level of danger, and having the knowledge to handle the situation. Girls should be raised with the skills and confidence to make safe and healthy decisions for themselves.
Parents should attempt to break this common idea by teaching both sons and daughters responsibility for their actions and the ability to make good choices.
www.huffingtonpost.com/kasey-ferris/my-son-does-not-need-to-b_b_8338402.html
I completely agree with your position on this article. I find it just as disturbing that not only parents but us kids and majority of our generation as well has just been able to accept this standard way of thinking and not desire to make any changes. It upsets me to think that we are not taking personal responsibility for our actions, and instead allowing the "hormones decide our actions". in addition to this growing problem being an issue with men, I also have never considered it from the alternate perspective. Before reading your post, I had never given much thought to the female side where you discussed that because of this portrayal of the boyfriend, the girl is therefore perceived as helpless and oblivious or unaware of the situations she may potentially be put in. This situation also devalues the women by making it seem like she is clueless and unable to find a match on her own and then rely on her father to pick up the broken pieces that may be made as a result of her mistake. I agree with this article and your stance that we must acknowledge this issue and attempt to break this stereotypical view of the how young women and men interact throughout today's society.
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